Manipulation is the single most powerful tool enablers, gate keepers, and abusers use to shut survivors down.

Clarity takes me straight to an image of standing in the sparkling blue ocean and seeing my feet very clearly all the way to the bottom.​Sometimes clarity is unavailable to

Toxic people are everywhere. We read about them in the news, or know them as neighbours or work colleagues. For some of us they are family, which means we are

Courage comes in many forms and is as unique to us as our thumbprints. All of us need to find courage some of the time, and some of us need to…

Its’ all about perception. Forgiveness ranges from something we do easily and willingly to something we withhold and use like a weapon. The problem being we don’t recognise a fundamental truth: If

Out of all the impacts Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) has on us, I think it is shame that has the most to answer for. It is after all Shame that keeps…

Because what happened to us was wrong, it changed everything and we stopped feeling normal, or what had felt normal to us. Our minds took us to ‘different land’, a…

With a force more powerful than thunder, they come. With terror inducing, nightmarish strength, they emerge. Unpredictable, unwanted, and definitely unasked for, there is nothing worse than their arrival, and…

Is a common reaction when stress is present. It has us second guessing ourselves and becoming uptight about life in general. It also has the questionable honour of emerging as…

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a disorder that can develop in people who have experienced a shocking, scary, or dangerous event. Symptoms can include; nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety and fear. Complex…

Although it's widely known as a process of disconnecting from one's thoughts and feelings I think Dissociation is way bigger than that. Depending on how your life has been it may…

Now there’s a word! When I think of how much I needed this in the first sixteen years of my life; it blows my mind. I am not alone, hypervigilence like…

I was talking to a friend the other day about how difficult it is to deal with people who tend to ‘Go Low’ in their behaviour.​By that I mean not

Whether we know it or not, we have boundaries with every single person we interact with. We decide who we let into our inner circle, outer circle or not at

This youtube video is invaluable in explaining why adult survivors of child sexual abuse struggle to speak out. A very informative and powerful watch. Children who are sexually abused are told…

Three years ago I began the journey of writing this book 'On Angels Wings - My flight from trauma to grace', and now it is done. Its here people, therefore…

Timing is interesting because we don't always understand why something is happening the way it is at the time it is. Usually we are impatiently expecting a situation to occur…

While watching a show on Netflix where a woman appeared to be gliding across a tight wire high up off the ground, I realised two things: I don’t like heights

Perception is interesting because whatever we perceive something to be becomes our reality. Not necessarily other people’s, just ours. We seem able to look at the exact same situation and…

I was reading Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth the other day, and one line in particular stood out; ‘Treat the situation you are in as if you had chosen it…..