Being Believed
One of the hallmarks of being a survivor can come with the experience of not being believed. This appears in many forms but usually begins with Are you Sure? He or She
Justifying
As survivors if we are sharing what happened to us, some of us have this habit of justifying the truth when discussing with others. This has to stop. We need to
Power and Suvivors
For some of us, feeling confident when dealing with powerful people just doesn’t happen. The fear, the paralysis can be so strong that even finding words is a struggle. This also has
Having your own back
Having your own back as a survivor is not without its challenges. WE are conditioned from the time our abuse began, to put our needs last and not value what our
Self-Sabotage
What does it even mean, and where does it stem from? It sounds quite intellectual, but it’s not. It’s basically when we do things that block our success and prevent good things
Feeling Proud
If you talk to the average person about proud moments in their lives, chances are they could probably list a few. Part of being human you would have thought, the…
Invisible
It’s almost impossible to be visible when a key part of our existence has been hiding in the dark. Being a survivor of child sexual abuse means that we become as unwelcome as the truth and when the words finally emerge, the reaction to it ensures we move further back into the shadows.
Disappointment
Feeling disappointed and then accepting it is one of life’s many challenges.
Commonly appearing as a person letting us down, or something we hadn’t anticipated, disappointment is part of who we are…
Staying Positive
I was asked recently how to stay positive when everything indicates feeling the opposite. When life feels like it’s just negative and certain people in it just don’t get you.
Surviving Christmas
Sometimes for survivors, Xmas can feel traumatic, anxiety provoking and a sense of dread can descend. I know that for some of us, the worst of experiences occurred over this
The Inner Critic
Have you met yours yet? That voice inside your head that is never quite happy or satisfied with what you do? That endless monologue about how you should just do one
The Choice
I recently read a book by Edith Eger called The Choice. It is inspirational, powerful and well worth reading. It got me to thinking that when you break it down
Broken Pieces
Sometimes as survivors we feel like we are made of broken pieces. Seeing a glass fall to the floor and shatter, noticing the shards lying on the floor.
Beginnings
Love or hate them they're part of life. Rumour has it we think about new beginnings the most in springtime, probably due to cute little lambs frolicking amidst the gorgeous